I could use some positive energy...

I am not good at remembering songs and philosophy, but it seems obvious to me that the good will and concern for others you daily exude comes greatly from your roots - Mom, in this instance.

My own parents were much older than most when they became parents and I lost them many years ago. I bring this up to relate that, in both passings, there was a long period of weakness and failing, but a short burst of energy and mental clarity surfaced just before they passed. Ironic, but certainly better than just draining away.

I feel you and your remaining family already have the faith and wisdom to recover and grow from the painful, but inevitable trials in store and want you to share with your Mom that her influence on you has led to your influence upon a host of others, such as us, the C-Brats. You have been "passing it on" in all your endeavors and adventures all these years.

God bless you all, and thanks so much,

John
 
Just read about your Mother's stroke - so sorry to hear the news, Jim. You are strong, and she needs that now - so good for you to be beside her through this trying time. May the hospice care sustain you both through this time. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, your Mother and with Joan.
 
Jim,

Keep up the good work and take good care of both yourself and your mother. I hope it's not inappropriate to say but in my imagination the scene is similar to that bitter sweet one in the movie Arthur - e.g. I see you as the funny guy who is struggling to get through a difficult time with a loved one and I imagine that you somehow manage to keep a good sense of humor about you when you can and it seems appropriate. Hopefully, this will bring a little smile to your face.

Roger
 
Jim -- continued best wishes to you, your mother and family. We went through something similar with my father 22 years ago this month. A peaceful end is a blessing.

Bill Uffelman
 
Rest in peace, Nellie. I was holding her hand today when the end came; Joan was by my side.

I am grateful for your positive thoughts and prayers, friends.

Sincerely,
Jim
 
Jim,
I believe that is the way that most of us want want life to end--our loved ones holding our hands. We were fortunate to be able to do that for both of our mothers--and still miss them many years later. It is sad, it is difficult, but it is right. I have seen too many die in nursing homes abandoned by their family.

Fortunately she did not suffer. You described her as being lucid and then apparently taking a turn for the worse, with Hospice present.

Any memorial? Anything that any of us can do for you?
 
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Jim,
I believe that is the way that most of us want want life to end--our loved ones holding our hands. We were fortunate to be able to do that for both of our mothers--and still miss them many years later. It is sad, it is difficult, but it is right. I have seen too many die in nursing homes abandoned by their family.

Fortunately she did not suffer. You described her as being lucid and then apparently taking a turn for the worse, with Hospice present.

Any memorial? Anything that any of us can do for you?
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Hi Bob,

Your friendship is something I cherish. Your PMs (and those of many Brats) helped at a time when I really needed it.

As far as what you folks can do for us: keep the good thoughts coming. We have much to do, and this forum is a bit of "home" while we're wading through it.

My sincere thanks,
Jim
 
"At the rising of the sun and at its going down,
We remember
As long as we live,
they too will live;
for they are a part of us,
as we remember them."
 
Sincere sympathies Jim, to you and your whole family! We lost all 4 of our parents in 1997, within two years, quite an experience. You indeed have a lot to do, BTDT.

As I told you in a PM, I'm sure she's now walking your Molly on her leash! :love :cat :love :rose

Best to you..

Charlie and Sally
 
I lost my mom (age 92) in February. She died at our home, in accordance with her wishes, of pneumonia. She came home from the hospital, hospice came, and a day later she passed. Having been there recently, my thoughts are with you, Joan, and your daughter.

:love
Warren
 
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