John,
I'm assuming the fuel flow meter is at the dash and the ignition switches not too far distant. I'm also assuming the stock Honda wiring harnesses were used. If so...
The black/yellow wire on each instrment harness (the one from the keyswitch panel to the instruments) is "hot" when the key is on. You should be able to find an unused connector behind the dash; make sure you find one for each engine (and each does have a separate harness). So there's your ignition controlled power.
Now, for the either/or situation. Wihtout getting into diodes, latching relyas and the like the simplest is to just let it get power from one or the other and not worry about both. But you didn't ask that so the next easiest is probably with a small toggle switch (and we're talking really low amperage here). Get a single pole double throw "on-off-on" switch and install it somewhere; run the port side lead from the black/yellow connector you found to one side of the switch, run another lead from the starboard black/yellow connector to the other side of the switch, then run a lead from the center of the switch to the fuel management gauge. Get the switch oriented horizontally and the wires on the ends connected so that flipping the switch orients properly with port and starboard and you should be good to go.
Have fun!