OK, the (apparent) end of the story...last night we pumped the flat up as well as we could, this morning it still had some pressure, so we decided to drive it in to Les Schwab. Made it there just fine, I had to leave for work so I did not see how they did it, don't know if it was a big air impact wrench or a nut splitter, but they got it off, fixed the flat (a nail), removed and re-torqued all the other lug nuts, and sent Patty down the road, no charge...I now have a nice breaker bar, socket and 3' pipe handle extension for the next time...this has been a learning experience for sure. Not sure what exactly I learned except I probably should not drive in Alaska unless of course there are Alaskan women and children nearby.